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The month of October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. It always seems so be over shadowed by  Breast Cancer Awareness Month. I don't want any one to think that I think any less of cancer survivors, because to me we are all one in the same. WE ARE SURIVORS!!! We looks death in the face, and walked away. Yet, we need to remember their are some that have not been so fortunate. That is where each of these "awareness months" differ.
Domestic Violence is s serious situation! Many women, and some men, are in fear of their lives at this very moment. They don't know how to get away. They don't  know where to go, how to get there, there are children involved, and they are scared, and all alone. The worst thing about it is, they are your next door neighbor, your co-worker, a friend, a family member, and you don't even know about it. Or if you do, you figure it is none of your business. Well, it is your business!! There were many times that I used to scream as loud as I could hoping that someone would call the police, or come knock on the door...just to make it stop.  There would be times that I would purposley show my bruises so that someone would ask me what happened so I could get the courage to tell someone.  No one call the cops, no one knocked at the door, no one asked questions. I felt helpless, and all alone. I finally got the courage to leave for good. I was lucky, he didn't kill me. Not to say he didn't try some times.
People ask, "why did you stay for so long?", when you feel no way out, when he keeps saying he is going to change, and does for a while, it gives you just enough hope that it won't happen till the next time it does. Then the cycle starts over again.
What I ask this month, and everyday of the year, is pay attention to those around you. You may save a life.
And remember....Love Never Fails!


 
 
Another part ofmy life I don't get into much is the physical violence that went on during my marraige to my childrens father. Evertime I hear the songs "Love the Way You Lie", by Eminem & Rhianna, I describes exactly what I went through. It describes, the cyle of abuse, and why it so hard for many woman to leave. I am just fortunate that I got away before my end was death. Many woman don't leave unless it is in a body bag, and that is a sad fact. We need to be talking about this more. We need to be in peoples bussiness more. If my neighbors had stepped in more, I may have gotten away before I did. If you are involved in a domestic violence situation...GET OUT NOW!!!
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Love the Way You Lie Pt.1


Just
  gonna stand there and watch me burn

Well
  that's alright because I like the way it hurts

Just gonna stand
  there and hear me cry

Well, that's alright because I love the way you 
lie

I love the way you
lie

I  can't tell you what it really is, I can only tell you
what it feels  like
And right now there's a steel knife in my 
windpipe
I can't breathe but I still fight while I can 
fight
As long as the wrong 
feels right it's like I'm in flight
High off of love, drunk from my 
hate
It's like I'm huffin' paint and I love it, the more I 
suffer
I suffocate and right before I'm about to drown, she 
resuscitates me
She fuckin' hates me, and I love it
Wait, where you going? I'm leaving you, no, you 
ain't
Come back, we're running right back, here we go 
again
It's so insane, 'cause when it's going good, it's going 
great
I'm Superman with the wind at his
back

She's  Lois Lane but when it's bad, it's awful, I feel so
ashamed
I snap, "Who's  that dude?", I don't even know his
name
I laid hands on her, I never stoop so  low
again
I guess I don't know my own strength
Just gonna stand there and watch me
burnWell that's alright because I
like the  way it hurtsJust gonna
stand there  and hear me cryWell,
that's  alright because I love the way you lieI
  love the way you lieI love the
way  you lie
You ever love somebody so much, you could barely breathe 
when you with 'em?
You meet, and neither one of you even know it hit 
'em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling, yeah, them chills, used to 
get 'em
Now you're gettin' fuckin' sick of lookin' at 
'em

You swore you'd never hit 'em, never do nothing to hurt 
'em
Now you're in each others face spewing venom in your words
  when you spit 'em
You push, pull each others hair, scratch, claw, bit 
'em
Throw 'em down, pin 'em, so lost in the moments when 
you're in 'em

It's the race that took over, it controls you 
both
So they say you'd best to go your separate ways, guess 
that they don't know ya
'Cause today, that was yesterday, 
yesterday is over, it's a different day
Sound like broken records playing 
over

But you promised her, next time you'd show 
restraint
You don't get another chance, life is no Nintendo 
game
But you lied again, now you get to watch her leave out the
  window
Guess that's why they call it "window
pane"

Just gonna stand
there and watch me  burnWell
that's alright because I  like the way it hurtsJust
gonna  stand there and hear me cryWell  that's alright because I love the way you
lieI  love the way you
lieI love the way  you
lie
Now I know we said things, did things that we didn't 
mean
And we fall back into the same patterns, same 
routine
But your temper's just as bad as mine is, you're the same 
as me
But when it comes to love, you're just as 
blinded

Baby, please come back, it wasn't you, baby, it was 
me
Maybe our relationship isn't as crazy as it 
seems
Maybe that's what happens when a tornado meets a 
volcano
All I know is I love you too much to walk away 
though

Come inside, pick up your bags off the 
sidewalk
Don't you hear sincerity in my voice when I 
talk?
Told you this is my fault, look me in the 
eyeball
Next time I'm pissed, I'll aim my fist at the 
drywall

Next time? There won't be no next time
apologize, even though I know it's lies
I'm tired of the games, I just want her 
back, I know I'm a liar
If she ever tries to fuckin' leave 
again, I'ma tie her to the bed
And set this 
house on fire

Just gonna 
stand there and watch me burnWell 
that's alright because I like the way it hurtsJust
  gonna stand there and hear me cryWell
  that's alright because I love the way you lieI
  love the way you lieI love 
the way you lie



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Love the Way You Lie Pt.2


On the first page of our story 
The
future seemed so bright 
Then this thing
turned out so evil 
I don't know
why I'm still surprised 
Even angels have their wicked schemes
And you take
that to new extremes 
But you'll always be my
hero 
Even though you've lost your
mind 

Just
gonna stand there and watch me burn 
But
that's all right because I like the way it hurts 
Just
gonna stand there and hear me cry 
But that's
all right because I Love
the way you lie 
I love the way
you lie 
Ohhh, I love the way you lie 


[Rihanna's Part 2] 
Now
there's gravel in our voices 
Glass is
shattered from the fight 
In this
tug of war, you'll always win 
Even when I'm
right 
'Cause you feed me fables
from your hand 
With violent words and empty
threats 
And it's sick that all
these battles 
Are what keeps me satisfied 


Just gonna stand there and watch me burn 
But that's all right because I like the way it
hurts 
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry 

But that's all right because I
love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 

Ohhh, I love the way you lie 


[Rihanna's Part 3] 
So
maybe I'm a masochist 
I try to
run but I don't wanna ever leave  

 Til the walls are goin' up 
In smoke with all our memories 

[Eminem's Part] 

This morning, you wake, a sunray hits your
face 
Smeared makeup as we lay in
the wake of destruction 
Hush baby, speak
softly, tell me your awfully sorry 
That
you pushed me into the coffee table last night 
So
I can push you off me 
Try and
touch me so I can scream at you not to touch me 
Run
out the room and I'll follow you like a lost puppy 
Baby,
without you, I'm nothing, I'm so lost, hug me 
Then tell me how ugly I am, but that you'll always love me 

Then after that, shove me, in the
aftermath of the 
Destructive path that we're
on, two psychopaths but we 
Know
that no matter how many knives we put in each other's backs 
That we'll have each other's backs, 'cause we're that lucky 

Together, we move mountains, let's
not make mountains out of molehills,  
You hit
me twice, yeah, but who's countin'' 
I
may have hit you three times, I'm startin' to lose count 
But together, we'll live forever, we found the youth fountain 

Our love is crazy, we're nuts, but
I refused counsellin' 
This house is too huge,
if you move out I'll burn all two thousand 
Square
feet of it to the ground, ain't shit you can do about it 
With you I'm in my f-ckin' mind, without you, I'm out it 


Just gonna stand there and watch me burn 
But that's all right because I like the way it
hurts 
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry 

But that's all right because I
love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 

Ohhh, I love the way you lie 


Love the way you lie 


[ Love The Way You Lie Part 2 lyrics

from
http://www.lyricsyoulove.com/r/rihanna/love_the_way_you_lie_part_2/


 
 
As a victim of domestic violence it is often hard to describe how I felt during that period of that time of my life. There have been several songs I have found that can describe that for me. 
Adele's "Set Fire to the Rain", describes the emotional part of me from beginning to end, and how my relationship evoled over time. This song really resinates with my heart.
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I let it fall, my heart
And as it fell, you rose to claim it
It was dark
  and I was over
Until you kissed my lips and you saved me

My hands,
  they're strong
But my knees were far too weak
To stand in your
  arms
Without falling to your feet

But there's a side to you that I
  never knew, never knew
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never
  true
And the games you play, you would always win, always win

But I
  set fire to the rain
Watched it pour as I touched your face
Let it burn
  while I cry
'Cause I heard it screaming out your name, your name

When
  laying with you
I could stay there, close my eyes
Feel you here,
  forever
You and me together, nothing is better

'Cause there's a side
  to you that I never knew, never knew
All the things you'd say, they were
  never true, never true
And the games you'd play, you would always win, always win

But I
set  fire to the rain
Watched it pour as I touched your face
Let it burn
while  I cried
'Cause I heard it screaming out your name, your name

I set  fire to the rain
And I threw us into the flames
Where I felt
somethin'  die, 'cause I knew that
That was the last time, the last
  time

Sometimes I wake up by the door
Now that you've gone, must be
  waiting for you
Even now when it's already over
I can't help myself from
  looking for you

I set fire to the rain
Watched it pour as I touched
  your face
Let it burn while I cried
'Cause I heard it screaming out your
  name, your name

I set fire to the rain
And I threw us into the
  flames
Where I felt somethin' die
'Cause I knew that that was the last
  time, the last time, oh

Oh, no
Let it burn, oh
Let it burn
Let
it burn

[ From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/a/adele-lyrics/set-fire-to-the-rain-lyrics.html ]