 There are some people in the world that are are trying to say that I am not a good mom. Matter of fact they think that when I am trying to what is best is really harming my child, enough so to charge me with neglect of my children. Thier sole purpose to gain custody of my kids bcause they think they could do better and don't see and don't want to see the issue the child has. I think is sad, really to put your own self before the welfare of the children. Why hurt a child that needs help, why enable a child that needs help, because they don't think that the mother who has finally come to grips that her child needs the help, is wrong. Maybe, I am trying everything I know. Maybe this is hard on me. Maybe they are being selfish, and they need to forgive themselves for their past mistakes and , and realize that this isn't their child that we are dealing with. This is my child, whom is very different. I will fight for my child, I will fight for what is the right thing for my child. They need to give me a chance. Work with me, not against me. I tried to do it their way, but a court battle, trying to put me in jail, and saying that I neglect my children is wrong. It is the wrong move for the kids, and everyone involed. I will prove that their. charges are completely unfounded. I am a strong woman. They will not beat me down. I fought for my children for 7yrs, and never gave up, and I will not give up this time.
Remember.......Love Never Fails!!!!
 I wouldn't be the woman I am today, without every thing I have gone through in my past. I have become s stronger, better woman because of it. When kids at school made fun of me or called me names, I learned to build up tolerance of others. When I didn't have the coolest, name brand clothes, I learned to create my own style, and develope my own personality. Everytime I got dumped by a boyfriend, I learned what I liked and didn't like in a guy. When I took certain classes in school, I learned more about what I was good at in life, and what just wasn't my forte. When I married an abusive husband, I learned what a marraige was not supposed to be,and what love is not. When I chose to pick up that first drug, I learned what years of drug abuse can do to your life. When I place my children with my sister, I learned the heartbreak that only a mother can feel. When, I lost friends. I learned what it was like to be alone. When my family distanced themselves from me, I felt isolated. When I left My husband , I felt free. When I reunited with family, I felt loved again. When I put the drugs down, I felt liberated. When I met my boy friend of 5yrs now, I finally new true love. When I reuinted with my children, I felt whole. So it may take a bulldozer to tear you down, but each time you go through something hard, or painful,someone is throwing another brick, and you learn something from it. Don't let tose bricks go to waste. Use them, build your self up, get up from the gutter, use your strength, and build that foundation you need to have a sucessful life. And remember ....Love never fails!
Another part ofmy life I don't get into much is the physical violence that went on during my marraige to my childrens father. Evertime I hear the songs "Love the Way You Lie", by Eminem & Rhianna, I describes exactly what I went through. It describes, the cyle of abuse, and why it so hard for many woman to leave. I am just fortunate that I got away before my end was death. Many woman don't leave unless it is in a body bag, and that is a sad fact. We need to be talking about this more. We need to be in peoples bussiness more. If my neighbors had stepped in more, I may have gotten away before I did. If you are involved in a domestic violence situation...GET OUT NOW!!!  Love the Way You Lie Pt.1
Just
gonna stand there and watch me burn Well
that's alright because I like the way it hurts Just gonna stand
there and hear me cry Well, that's alright because I love the way you
lie I love the way you
lieI can't tell you what it really is, I can only tell you
what it feels likeAnd right now there's a steel knife in my
windpipeI can't breathe but I still fight while I can
fightAs long as the wrong feels right it's like I'm in flight High off of love, drunk from my
hateIt's like I'm huffin' paint and I love it, the more I
sufferI suffocate and right before I'm about to drown, she
resuscitates meShe fuckin' hates me, and I love itWait, where you going? I'm leaving you, no, you
ain'tCome back, we're running right back, here we go
againIt's so insane, 'cause when it's going good, it's going
greatI'm Superman with the wind at his
backShe's Lois Lane but when it's bad, it's awful, I feel so
ashamedI snap, "Who's that dude?", I don't even know his
nameI laid hands on her, I never stoop so low
againI guess I don't know my own strengthJust gonna stand there and watch me burnWell that's alright because I like the way it hurtsJust gonna stand there and hear me cryWell, that's alright because I love the way you lieI love the way you lieI love the way you lie You ever love somebody so much, you could barely breathe
when you with 'em?You meet, and neither one of you even know it hit
'emGot that warm fuzzy feeling, yeah, them chills, used to
get 'emNow you're gettin' fuckin' sick of lookin' at
'emYou swore you'd never hit 'em, never do nothing to hurt
'emNow you're in each others face spewing venom in your words
when you spit 'emYou push, pull each others hair, scratch, claw, bit
'emThrow 'em down, pin 'em, so lost in the moments when
you're in 'emIt's the race that took over, it controls you
bothSo they say you'd best to go your separate ways, guess
that they don't know ya'Cause today, that was yesterday,
yesterday is over, it's a different daySound like broken records playing
overBut you promised her, next time you'd show
restraintYou don't get another chance, life is no Nintendo
gameBut you lied again, now you get to watch her leave out the
windowGuess that's why they call it "window
pane"Just gonna stand there and watch me burnWell that's alright because I like the way it hurtsJust gonna stand there and hear me cryWell that's alright because I love the way you lieI love the way you lieI love the way you lie Now I know we said things, did things that we didn't
meanAnd we fall back into the same patterns, same
routineBut your temper's just as bad as mine is, you're the same
as meBut when it comes to love, you're just as
blindedBaby, please come back, it wasn't you, baby, it was
meMaybe our relationship isn't as crazy as it
seemsMaybe that's what happens when a tornado meets a
volcanoAll I know is I love you too much to walk away
thoughCome inside, pick up your bags off the
sidewalkDon't you hear sincerity in my voice when I
talk?Told you this is my fault, look me in the
eyeballNext time I'm pissed, I'll aim my fist at the
drywallNext time? There won't be no next timeI
apologize, even though I know it's liesI'm tired of the games, I just want her
back, I know I'm a liarIf she ever tries to fuckin' leave
again, I'ma tie her to the bedAnd set this
house on fireJust gonna stand there and watch me burnWell that's alright because I like the way it hurtsJust gonna stand there and hear me cryWell that's alright because I love the way you lieI love the way you lieI love the way you lie Read more: EMINEM
- LOVE THE WAY YOU LIE LYRICS http://www.metrolyrics.com/love-the-way-you-lie-lyrics-eminem.html#ixzz24NeexKizCopied from MetroLyrics.com
|  Love the Way You Lie Pt.2 On the first page of our story The future seemed so bright Then this thing turned out so evil I don't know why I'm still surprised Even angels have their wicked schemes And you take that to new extremes But you'll always be my hero Even though you've lost your mind Just gonna stand there and watch me burn But that's all right because I like the way it hurts Just gonna stand there and hear me cry But that's all right because I Love the way you lie I love the way you lie Ohhh, I love the way you lie [Rihanna's Part 2] Now there's gravel in our voices Glass is shattered from the fight In this tug of war, you'll always win Even when I'm right 'Cause you feed me fables from your hand With violent words and empty threats And it's sick that all these battles Are what keeps me satisfied Just gonna stand there and watch me burn But that's all right because I like the way it hurts Just gonna stand there and hear me cry But that's all right because I love the way you lie I love the way you lie Ohhh, I love the way you lie [Rihanna's Part 3] So maybe I'm a masochist I try to run but I don't wanna ever leave Til the walls are goin' up In smoke with all our memories [Eminem's Part] This morning, you wake, a sunray hits your face Smeared makeup as we lay in the wake of destruction Hush baby, speak softly, tell me your awfully sorry That you pushed me into the coffee table last night So I can push you off me Try and touch me so I can scream at you not to touch me Run out the room and I'll follow you like a lost puppy Baby, without you, I'm nothing, I'm so lost, hug me Then tell me how ugly I am, but that you'll always love me Then after that, shove me, in the aftermath of the Destructive path that we're on, two psychopaths but we Know that no matter how many knives we put in each other's backs That we'll have each other's backs, 'cause we're that lucky Together, we move mountains, let's not make mountains out of molehills, You hit me twice, yeah, but who's countin'' I may have hit you three times, I'm startin' to lose count But together, we'll live forever, we found the youth fountain Our love is crazy, we're nuts, but I refused counsellin' This house is too huge, if you move out I'll burn all two thousand Square feet of it to the ground, ain't shit you can do about it With you I'm in my f-ckin' mind, without you, I'm out it Just gonna stand there and watch me burn But that's all right because I like the way it hurts Just gonna stand there and hear me cry But that's all right because I love the way you lie I love the way you lie Ohhh, I love the way you lie Love the way you lie [ Love The Way You Lie Part 2 lyrics from http://www.lyricsyoulove.com/r/rihanna/love_the_way_you_lie_part_2/
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 For many centuries all siblings have had a rivalry with one another. Brothers picking on sisters, grossing them out, and tattling on them. Sisters are always trying to out do the other at what ever it is they are doing. My sister and I have been doing it for years. Even though I am the oldest I still feel the need to try and out do her some times. We no longer have that close best friend relationship we use to have, instead I feel we have a competion, and I don't like it at all.
Now watching my two children, they are doing the same thing, just at a much earlier age. Did my sister and I teach this to them? Or is this different? I hate when they fight constantly, and tell each other that they wish they were an only child, and that they hate each other. I wish that they could see how precious having each other is, and they are hurting a lifetime bond. Or am I going overboard here? Should I let them fight it out, and at the end of the day everything will be okay. I'm still so new to all this, that some times I just go blank. Afraid to ask for help, because I will feel like a failure as a parent, and afraid someone will take them away form me again. I wanrt to be a super mom, and have all the answers, and know how to do it all perfectly. I watch the "traditional moms" out there and feel like "WOW, they have got all together". Or are they just like me, feeling there way through this, and have no clue either? I may not have the answers, but what I do know is....... Love Never Fails!
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