For many centuries all siblings have had a rivalry with one another. Brothers picking on sisters, grossing them out, and tattling on them. Sisters are always trying to out do the other at what ever it is they are doing. My sister and I have been doing it for years. Even though I am the oldest I still feel the need to try and out do her some times. We no longer have that close best friend relationship we use to have, instead I feel we have a competion, and I don't like it at all.
Now watching my two children, they are doing the same thing, just at a much earlier age. Did my sister and I teach this to them?  Or is this different? I hate when they fight constantly, and tell each other that they wish they were an only child, and that they hate each other. I wish that they could see how precious  having each other is, and they are hurting a lifetime bond. Or am I going overboard here? Should I let them fight it out, and at the end of the day everything will be okay. I'm still so new to all this, that some times I just go blank. Afraid to ask for help, because I will feel like a failure as a parent, and afraid someone will take them away form me again. I wanrt to be a super mom, and have all the answers, and know how to do it all perfectly. I watch the "traditional moms" out there and feel like "WOW, they have got all together".  Or are they just like me, feeling there way through this, and have no clue either? I may not have the answers, but what I do know is....... Love Never Fails!

8/13/2012 03:43:05 am

Sibling Rivalry stems from jealousy. While compeition can aspire from a learned behavior most siblings rival for the affectiona dn attention of the parent. In your case, you and your sister might have fought because you were competing for attention from a parent- and so are your children. This is a natural thing in families with more than one child and even more prevalent when one parent is missing. Time management between the children can help. They both need to feel special without giving one child more or less than the other. It may be hard to find balance but it is possible.

New Kind of Mom
8/13/2012 10:56:44 pm

I believe you are right! Thank you for the suggestions, I am still new at this whole thing, but I will definetly try to work on my time management a little bit more. Thank you so very much!


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